The Relationships Thread

[Jage]

One thing I've realised over time is that there is a really big difference between the desire for validation and actual loneliness. It becomes especially apparent the morning after basically. Anyway, so single people should maybe be wary of that. You may actually be really happy with your own company but were feeling a bit undesirable or something and needed to know you weren't.

[NeglectedField]

I know exactly what you mean. But as they're not mutually exclusive, it's not so much distinguishing need for validation from need for intimacy, but distinguishing those things from actual desire for the other person.

[Jage]

Yeah. Sexual politics and other things, like the glamorization of easy sex confuse the matter. It's like you're pushed to judge yourself on your ability to attact women who are physically attractive to the extent that you would like to have sex with them, at least as they look in the darkened club, with their make up on, but in all likelyhood, there are plenty of women you'd get on with better, who are maybe more attractive, but aren't in that environment. I don't know, it's weird. It's like we revert / suffer atavism and act like bonobos.

[metaldinosaur]

My love is constant and sharp.
And I do not hope fore a better world for anyone.
In fact I want my love to be inflicted on others.
I want no one to escape.
But even after admitting this, there is no catharsis; my punishment continues to elude me, and I gain no deeper knowledge of myself.
No new knowledge can be extracted from my telling.
This confession has meant nothing.

[Womble]

My love is constant and sharp.
And I do not hope fore a better world for anyone.
In fact I want my love to be inflicted on others.
I want no one to escape.
But even after admitting this, there is no catharsis; my punishment continues to elude me, and I gain no deeper knowledge of myself.
No new knowledge can be extracted from my telling.
This confession has meant nothing.

[Moonburp]

My love is constant and sharp.
And I do not hope fore a better world for anyone.
In fact I want my love to be inflicted on others.
I want no one to escape.
But even after admitting this, there is no catharsis; my punishment continues to elude me, and I gain no deeper knowledge of myself.
No new knowledge can be extracted from my telling.
This confession has meant nothing.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MMe_i8PcObI

[Jobdone]

My love is constant and sharp.
And I do not hope fore a better world for anyone.
In fact I want my love to be inflicted on others.
I want no one to escape.
But even after admitting this, there is no catharsis; my punishment continues to elude me, and I gain no deeper knowledge of myself.
No new knowledge can be extracted from my telling.
This confession has meant nothing.

[Bisset]

Also known as:

My pain is constant and sharp,
And I do not hope for a better world for anyone.
In fact, I want my pain to be inflicted on others.
I want no one to escape. But even after admitting this,
There is no catharsis; my punishment continues to elude me,
And I gain no deeper knowledge of myself.
No new knowledge can be extracted from my telling.
This confession has meant nothing.

[tranmerefan]

Messaged someone on POF with a similar sense of humour, who apparently does Roller Derby (for a different team) and has just asked if I drink in one of my favourite pubs.

It's a trap, isn't it?

The girl I had a couple of dates with still hasn't messaged back. Second date was a week ago tomorrow. I've written her off and I'm not going to chase. I've messaged twice to arrange something, seemingly been ignored and I'm not willing to send a third. Le Sigh.

[Fjar]

The first bit of your post sounds promising!

[tranmerefan]

The first bit of your post sounds promising!

That's why I'm sensing it to be a trap, but I've responded so we shall see.

Only messaged her in the first place because her job is listed as "Non Evil Scientist" and I wanted to express my disappointment at the lack of taking over the universe plans

[Turbo]

It's a trap. Barry, 35 year old plumber from Wigan wants to use your asshole in ways that I couldn't possibly mention on a public forum.

[Smerphy]

It's a trap. Barry, 35 year old plumber from Wigan wants to use your asshole in ways that I couldn't possibly mention on a public forum.

But just between you and me, he wants to put his willy in it, right? Right?

[wintermourn]

:insert Admiral Akbar picture here:

[Turbo]

It's a trap. Barry, 35 year old plumber from Wigan wants to use your asshole in ways that I couldn't possibly mention on a public forum.

But just between you and me, he wants to put his willy in it, right? Right?

Quiet child, adults are speaking.