Re: What's upset you?
Posted: Sat Jun 25, 2016 6:10 pm
Day by day. Tonight we'll have all the cuds and pizza and love <3
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Nantha wrote:This guy could have life-changing injuries, and he could try to prosecute me.
There's a huge dent in the side of the van and I'm liable for £1k excess.
I have literally no idea how to carry on with life at this point in time.
fluffymoo wrote:I hate being single. Hanging myself is looking more and more tempting.
Nantha wrote:And yeah, I did see him, he walked out into the road and saw me and paused, then either out of pure indignance to make me slam on the brakes or because his depth perception was shot, he carried on walking straight into my path.
fluffymoo wrote:I hate being single. Hanging myself is looking more and more tempting.
fluffymoo wrote:Not a joke. I've spoken to the Samaritans many times - the reality is that the UK mental health resources are a big fat joke. Took them nearly 2 years to get me even close to a psychiatrist when in Sweden it took them 2 months.
Thanks though onona, I really appreciate it. This and your advice in the relationships thread. Honestly, I think I need a rebound.
fluffymoo wrote:Not a joke. I've spoken to the Samaritans many times - the reality is that the UK mental health resources are a big fat joke. Took them nearly 2 years to get me even close to a psychiatrist when in Sweden it took them 2 months.
Thanks though onona, I really appreciate it. This and your advice in the relationships thread. Honestly, I think I need a rebound.
onona wrote:fluffymoo wrote:Not a joke. I've spoken to the Samaritans many times - the reality is that the UK mental health resources are a big fat joke. Took them nearly 2 years to get me even close to a psychiatrist when in Sweden it took them 2 months.
Thanks though onona, I really appreciate it. This and your advice in the relationships thread. Honestly, I think I need a rebound.
Agreed, the mental health care in the UK is the pits. I have bipolar disorder (diagnosed in another country - I've lived all over - about 15 years ago) and haven't even bothered telling my GP because I know it's no use. I've been off my meds for years and it sucks; I've lost jobs and stuff because of it but I've learned to cope, mostly. So, if it's any consolation at all, I've done the Samaritans thing too and I know how it feels.
As for rebounds, go with the flow. I guess my advice would be to not aim for anything in particular. Sometimes actively seeking out relationships not only makes people feel more lonely, but also leads to compromises that may not be in your best interests in the long term. To be honest I'm a huge coward and haven't been in a relationship for over ten years because I don't want to get my heart broken again (I just stick with one night stands from time to time), so I'm probably the last person who should be dishing out relationship advice, but what I will say is that it's okay to be single. Of course I don't really know you, or your history or reasons for not wanting to be single (as those can range a broad gamut, from loneliness to dependent personalities, to a whole lot of options in between), but if you're feeling pressure to be in a relationship simply out of discomfort with singledom, try to find a way to feel okay about that; not saying you should resign yourself to long term singledom, just find a way to feel okay about the fact that you're single right now, today. As silly as it may sound, find a hobby or something else you can do in your spare time to avoid dwelling on things that make you unhappy. I know that may sound like a cliché, but it's important to avoid finding yourself with nothing to do. Keeping myself busy is my main coping mechanism with my depression. It doesn't get rid of the depression, but it distracts me from it.
And if you feel okay about having a rebound or a one night stand or whatever, then just go with it. Because it's okay to do those things too, provided you go into them with a healthy attitude. Sex is fun, it can be a great way to relax and sometimes you get good company out of the encounter too. Don't get hung up on finding a prospective partner, just go with the flow and see what happens.
Nantha wrote:My little bro is in intensive care had a nasty skateboarding accident and ruptured a kidney. He's gonna be okay, but still.