This may belong in the relationships thread, or the pissed off thread, but ultimately, it's upset me more than anything, so here it is. This may be a bit of a wall of text.
Basically, about a month and a half ago I (drunkenly) slept with one of my exes. Afterwards, nothing was really said of it. I told a few people I knew I could trust and I have no idea if she told anyone. A few weeks later, we were out for a drink with some others from work and I walked her home. We kissed. I said nothing to people at work about it and again, no idea if she told anyone either. A couple of weeks later, same scenario. This time, though, she came back to mine and we both slept in my bed after talking for ages about "us" - our relationship from years ago, how we both felt about the night we slept together (she said she didn't care if people found out, and if anything, was worried she'd pressured me into it). Things seemed pretty fucking awesome.
Then a few days ago, she sent me a text saying "What's wrong with you? Why did you tell everyone I had sex with you the other night? I'm pretty sure that didn't happen. Sort it out". I explained that I'd not told anyone we'd had sex the other night, I'd only told a handful of people about what happened the other month after she told me she didn't care who knew. She said she doesn't remember saying that, and that she doesn't even remember having sex with me.
So, I went into the pub and spoke to the main 3 gossipers. Said that nothing had happened between us and that the rumours of us having sex were greatly exaggerated. I then told Amy (my ex) that I wanted to talk to her, as I needed to tell her how I felt about this all (what had been happening with us had rekindled my feelings for her and I needed to let her know that this was all more than a drunken fuck for me). She made no effort to talk to me.
So last night I sent her a message saying it all. How I thought that night meant as much to her as it did to me, how I'd rather people think I lied about things between us than think less of her, how I didn't realise how little control she had over herself when drunk, and that if I did, none of this would've happened.
This morning she replied saying:
"I've stopped drinking now especially with you lot to ensure I never make that mistake again. For future reference if a girl is too drunk she can't stand and has lost her belongings you need to take her to her bed and not your own. I thought that went without saying."
A fair comment, but she was the one who led me back to my place that night - I tried to take her home but she didn't want to go. I'm absolutely not the kind of guy who'd take advantage of a drunk girl at all. But she seems to think I am. She's known me for 6 years. She should know that I never make the first move, even when all of the signs are in my favour - I'm just too shy.
So tonight, we were working at the same time and she didn't even say 2 words to me. I don't really understand why she's suddenly changed her tone and hates my guts. I think one of our duty managers has put the thought in her head, as this particular manager does not like me at all. Her name came up when I talked to the 3 gossipers and I sent her a text asking what she'd been told and who she'd spoken to, and she told me at work that we'd talk about it another time as it's a personal matter (avoiding the subject). Then tonight I walked past the 2 of them sitting together, and this manager said, in full earshot of me, talking about some plans Amy had, "make sure you don't drink too much!".
Probably nothing, but I wouldn't put it past her to be that fucking childish.
I really hope I'm overreacting over all of this, but I hate the idea that anyone thinks I would take advantage like that. Effectively saying I could be a date rapist.
I'm not really putting this here for sympathy, or even really advise. Either is welcome, but I just don't know what the fuck to do and I hate this shit.
Thank fuck I'm off on holiday for 3 weeks on Friday.
Tl;dr - I can't even do one night stands right.
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