sugarmouse wrote:Great Wall of Textna
Obviously none of us know the actual situation, but we can wade in with outsiders' views as if you life is some sort of internet version of Coronation Street.
It's FILTHY, I mean really filthy. He used to piss in bottles because he couldn't be arsed going to the toilet-fine in certain situations but not all the fecking time, at home!
The fuck? That isn't normal behaviour, nor should it be allowed to be.
You really shouldn't have moved in before it was all sorted. I don't understand why people are so eager to move in with partners straight away these days. If they ain't going to sort shit out when they're in the trying to impress you phase, they certainly aren't going to once you've moved in together.
But today I had a bad day, everyhing went wrong and I've tried to contact him via text, fb, phone everything and no response. ... He had about 20 missed calls, he walks to and from work and could have easily texted or 'phoned me when he got in, he didn't fall asleep the moment he got through the door.
Don't do this. It's degrading to both of you. There are two outcomes here: There can easily be a legitimate reason why he hasn't answered, but you have decided that you are the only part of his life that matters and anything else he does doesn't OR He doesn't want to talk to you at that moment for whatever reason and you are making your entire life based around him.
I'm in the midst of buying half his house so I can put all my wages into it and have some security
REALLY, REALLY do not do this. Not until you know the two of you actually work well together and can live both independently and together. NEVER buy a house with someone you haven't lived with successfully for at least a couple of months.
To be honest, it sounds like he has a lot of mental issues he needs to deal with that mean he really isn't capable of having a proper relationship. You sound a little bit on the clingy side, which is okay, but remember you and your lad both need time to yourselves and doing things without each other too and you always have other pals that you can talk to. Really though, and remember I know nothing about your situation and am going entirely on that post, you need to kick him to the curb and work on getting your life back into your own hands.
EDIT: Will agree with others, that shit is certainly less trivial than a huge number of things I've seen posted on here before.