What's upset you?

[The Toad]

I found out this morning that someone I knew online a while back (and met in person too) killed himself at the weekend. I haven't spoken to him in ages, but it's still a bit upsetting.

[GetToTheChoppar]

I found out this morning that someone I knew online a while back (and met in person too) killed himself at the weekend. I haven't spoken to him in ages, but it's still a bit upsetting.

Shit, that sounds horrible. Sorry to hear it, mate.

[Big D]

I found out this morning that someone I knew online a while back (and met in person too) killed himself at the weekend. I haven't spoken to him in ages, but it's still a bit upsetting.

Not nice. Sorry to hear it.

[Corpse_Flower]

I find it really hard to believe that it's been four years today since my cousin was killed, especially considering I remember almost exactly what happened that day.

[Fjar]

http://news.bbc.co.uk/sport1/hi/football/15563782.stm

This made me cry.

[VirginInvader]

http://news.bbc.co.uk/sport1/hi/football/15563782.stm

This made me cry.

Yeah, absolutely top lad. Really puts the whole Tevez thing into perspective.

[jackcake]

Sharp, who was named captain for the night, revealed a message to his son on a T-shirt underneath his Doncaster strip as he ran towards the home fans in celebration and referee Darren Deadman did not issue a yellow card.

And he would be had he booked Sharp.

I hope Tevez sees that video and realises how privileged he is. That is courage epitomised.

[tranmerefan]

http://news.bbc.co.uk/sport1/hi/football/15563782.stm

This made me cry.

And me. I couldn't imagine going through it.

[Littlemissmetal]

http://news.bbc.co.uk/sport1/hi/football/15563782.stm

This made me cry.

And me. I couldn't imagine going through it.

It got me a little bit too. Although, a small niggle - I wish some of the coverage (not of the match per se, but on the local news) had mentioned his wife/girlfriend as well. She's just lost her son too.

[Littlemissmetal]

My friend has had to have her cat put down. She's in a mess but hearing how Calico hurt herself really freaked me out, I keep fighting the urge to check up on Mogface every hour or so.

The vet thought Calico had tried to come through a gap and caught her tail, she had a tail-pull injury, snapped her spinal cord and paralysed her back legs.

[Fjar]

Losing a beloved pet is so upsetting, especially when it's unexpected like that. Hugs and thoughts to your friend.

My cat was old, and we knew she would go at some point, but she had to be put down after she kept collapsing and was unable to walk. It was a kindness, really. She had been with us for all of her life, and it was simply her time. My whole family were in pieces the day she went.

[fluffymoo]

Family issues. I know some of you may have read about my dad's best friend in a post I put up quite some time ago, so I won't go into any details much. Basically, he's a very bad man.

My dad told us yesterday that this friend is not well, and since he's living in a trailer with no electricity, he's got no heating on for the winter - so he's burning gas to keep warm. My dad pointed out that if he keeps doing this, and because of his health problems and he hasn't got any windows open to get any fresh air in because it's simply too cold, he will probably just go to sleep one night and never wake up again (because of lack of oxygen). Or some bullshit like that.

And then my dad goes quiet for a while. And then he tries to hint that he means for this guy to either stay with us every now and then, or move into one of our storages outside. Urgh. This guy has been a parasite on my dad's back for years, and he's been my nightmare since I was 12 - I know you shouldn't wish for people to die, but I really do wish that he'd just stay out of our lives.

Anyway, my respond to my dad's thoughts on the matter was basically "Hell. No." - and then my dad drags up the fact that since the abuse took place, I've hugged this man - and yes, I have. But only for my dad's sake, because I thought it would make him feel better about what happened. And also only because I felt bad, back then, for the guy who did it because I partly blamed myself. Now though, I have no sympathy for that guy whatsoever.

[Nantha]

Jesus Christ, I'm sorry, but your Dad must be mad to even be speaking to this man, let alone considering having him move in. I would have thought it would be a father's number one priority to keep his family safe and away from harm and people like that

[Big D]

As above. Why the fuck would your dad even keep in contact with him?

[fluffymoo]

Thanks for taking the time to read that little essay up there guys. Now, I realise that my dad seems like a complete idiot from what you've read, but it's a thin line to walk really.

His best friend has a daughter around the same age as my younger sister, which is the reason why there was never any police involved when my parents found out a few days after it had happened. Imagine if his daughter, who has NOT been abused (we are 100% sure, don't worry), found out from my younger sister - or by the fact that we'd never see her dad again. Now, I couldn't actually give a fuck about that, because I do think that eventually this girl deserves to know and so does my younger sister seeing as they've both spent so much time around this man.

If something had happened to my sister, I would never have been able to forgive myself.
This guy is severely addicted to alcohol, he can't actually live without it for a longer time - but when he's sober in the mornings he's a totally different person. As soon as he takes a glas of wine or a beer though, it's like he's gone and has been replaced with someone else.

Now, back to my dad. At first my dad didn't want to believe that this had happened to me, something I will never forgive him for. Dad's also been told by this guy that he didn't mean to do what he did - it's a bit weird really, but apparently he was looking for his daughter and mistaked me for her. But what he did is not something you would ever do to your daughter unless you're fucked up in the head, and I don't believe a word of it. But please believe me when I tell you that my dad loves me more than anything, he's just never been sure how to show it - partly because of what happened. He didn't want to get too close to me. I don't really have an answer for why he's acted the way he has, and why this friend of his has been allowed back into our house since then, but I don't think he knows either really.