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Re: A free-for-all thread

Postby houston4044 » Wed Feb 18, 2015 4:48 pm

fluffymoo wrote:Not sure what to make of my second counseling session this morning. I also seem incapable of crying at the moment, which means there's a lot of bottled up emotions. I've been told I need to get angry more often.


Only your second session, hopefully things will get better soon :)

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Re: A free-for-all thread

Postby ScrumpiesVeteran » Wed Feb 18, 2015 10:06 pm

Took me a few sessions with my counsellor before things started to make sense. I felt very weepy after each one for a few weeks. Maybe it will be the other way round for you.

Somewhere along the line things seemed to click into place and I started thinking differently without even realising it at first.

Keep with it Moo, hopefully it will be the same for you too :yes:
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Re: A free-for-all thread

Postby Katesyl » Thu Feb 19, 2015 12:42 am

Again, I don't think counsellors are supposed to be giving advice anyway - as far as I'm aware they should provide an environment for you to work through things yourself.

Obviously everyone has slightly different approaches though. Just a case of finding out what works for you, I guess. I think it's normal to feel a bit weird and exposed at first. Things like that often make me feel like I haven't said the right thing or quite expressed myself properly, but you wouldn't be human if you could get everything you've ever felt across in a couple of sessions.

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Re: A free-for-all thread

Postby Nantha » Thu Feb 19, 2015 11:33 am

I remember it being proper horrible at first, I would cry every session, and then things actually started making sense. I didn't go for very long, but I always find myself thinking back to what was said to me in that room.
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Re: A free-for-all thread

Postby Jobdone » Thu Feb 19, 2015 11:35 am

I've only had one councelling session where I nearly broke down about 3 times and realised some important things about me and my brothers sibling relationship.

I should really pick it up again, but it'll probably be way harder now to get an appointment now that I'm not actually suffering from depression, and my anxiety's way down.
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Re: A free-for-all thread

Postby Moonburp » Thu Feb 19, 2015 1:43 pm

I found CBT mostly useless, but NLP got me out of the giant hole I'd dug myself into. Each to their own of course, but I had three different therapists/counsellors before I actually started getting better.

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Re: A free-for-all thread

Postby Tet » Fri Feb 20, 2015 5:02 pm

keera_envenomed wrote:
Metalchemyst wrote:I would take counselling advice with a degree of scepticism. A counsellor is in a position to make powerful suggestions which can be harmful.


And undermining someone's trust in a counsellor isn't harmful at all right? :rolleyes:

peypea wrote:Yeah dude, that's definitely not an okay thing to say.

I'm afraid I'm with Metalchemyst on this one. I've seen good counsellors really make a difference to people's lives but equally I've seen bad counsellors make the situation significantly worse. Blindly trusting a counsellor just because that's what they are is IMHO a dangerous starting point.
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Re: A free-for-all thread

Postby fluffymoo » Fri Feb 20, 2015 6:10 pm

I'm not naïve enough to go into every session thinking my counselor will fix everything in my life, I'm not blindly trusting her to magically fix me as a person - what she is doing is unraveling a lot of my past and helping me work through it. I had a really crappy counselor a few years back that worked with the college I was in - she made promises she couldn't keep, which left a bitter taste in my mouth about the whole professional help side of things. At the moment though, it feels like I leave my current sessions feeling calmer and less destructive. All in all, things seem to be working. 4 sessions left, then we'll see where we're at.
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Re: A free-for-all thread

Postby Tet » Fri Feb 20, 2015 6:59 pm

fluffymoo wrote:At the moment though, it feels like I leave my current sessions feeling calmer and less destructive.

In which case, it sounds like they're working.

Plus, you get many, many bonus point from me for using a diaeresis and spelling "naïve" correctly.
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Re: A free-for-all thread

Postby fluffymoo » Fri Feb 20, 2015 7:16 pm

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Re: A free-for-all thread

Postby NeglectedField » Fri Feb 20, 2015 11:37 pm

I think whisky might become my 'thing' when I can afford it, possibly superseding ale.

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Re: A free-for-all thread

Postby AnnihiSlateR » Sat Feb 21, 2015 4:40 pm

Yeah, likewise.

I was lucky enough that work had a good budget for my birthday and one of them was clever enough to email my girlfriend, resulting in me getting a bottle of Ardbeg 10yo, and I've since got a bottle of Laphroig 10yo for Christmas too. So I've not done too bad this last 6 months for whisky. I think that also gives you an indication of my whisky tastes. :p
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Re: A free-for-all thread

Postby Jim » Sat Feb 21, 2015 5:00 pm

Both excellent choices there! Especially Ardbeg. Tastes like your mouth is full of smouldering peat. Love the stuff.
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Re: A free-for-all thread

Postby NeglectedField » Sat Feb 21, 2015 6:06 pm

I tried Ardbeg 10y/o in the cocktail bar the other weekend. Lovely complex flavour that I was doing my best to savour given how much I paid. Wanna try the Uigeadail one next.

Don't bother with Jura Origin (10) by the way. Tastes nice but wholly uninteresting for the money.

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Re: A free-for-all thread

Postby thehairyone » Sat Feb 21, 2015 6:29 pm

Laphroig. A good choice for heaven in a bottle if ever there was.
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