keera_envenomed wrote:Also, I really feel obligated to inform boneduster's mrs that he finds sexual assault hilarious.
Well said.
keera_envenomed wrote:Also, I really feel obligated to inform boneduster's mrs that he finds sexual assault hilarious.
Smindas wrote:Kick him in the shins. With knifey shoes.
Bisset wrote:I'd rather slap my balls with a cheese grater.
Littlemissmetal wrote:I'm really sorry to hear that A friend of mine endured something very similar. The fear is a completely natural reaction, please try not to take it too personally - it really *isn't* you.
In an ideal world all instances like that should be reported, but most aren't. She needs to make her own decision and will do it regardless of what people say to her - in fact, the more people say "you should report it" to her the less likely she is to actually do it.
A less pressured suggestion to make to her (possibly) is to contact someone like Rape Crisis. It isn't the sort of thing that should be bottled up - that's how my friend tried to deal with it and the aftermath of that approach stopping being effective was horrific. Counselling was the only way forward to her - I think it's something that should be gently encouraged.
Azubi wrote:Really? I'm fairly confident if someone had raped my girlfriend I'd be chasing up the mutual friends to find out who the fuck it was who did it. What I would do once I had found out, I really could not say but not wanting to know just sounds like you couldn't really give a fuck.
kanet666 wrote:Littlemissmetal wrote:I'm really sorry to hear that A friend of mine endured something very similar. The fear is a completely natural reaction, please try not to take it too personally - it really *isn't* you.
In an ideal world all instances like that should be reported, but most aren't. She needs to make her own decision and will do it regardless of what people say to her - in fact, the more people say "you should report it" to her the less likely she is to actually do it.
A less pressured suggestion to make to her (possibly) is to contact someone like Rape Crisis. It isn't the sort of thing that should be bottled up - that's how my friend tried to deal with it and the aftermath of that approach stopping being effective was horrific. Counselling was the only way forward to her - I think it's something that should be gently encouraged.
She has a counsellor, due to some other things within her past anyway, but I'm not sure she really listens to him. She has a friend who's been through something similar, and basically all the friends she's confided in told her to ditch me. I worry about her because I know she has been harming herself, and there's nothing I can do because she barely talks to me anymore.Azubi wrote:Really? I'm fairly confident if someone had raped my girlfriend I'd be chasing up the mutual friends to find out who the fuck it was who did it. What I would do once I had found out, I really could not say but not wanting to know just sounds like you couldn't really give a fuck.
It's not that I don't give a fuck, I do, and that is why I don't want to know the attacker because if I did I don't know what I might do to him. It'd just hurt her even more, and that's one thing I don't want to do. In any case, the only mutual friend I know of that knows the identity was one that told her to get rid of me, so I highly doubt I'd get the attacker's identity even if I'd wanted to.
I'm also sorry that I've posted this on here, but there are very few people around me that know about it and I feel I can't talk to them about it for some reason, and this is helping a little. Thankyou.
Freyja wrote:I never used to be able to fit a whole one in my mouth. But now I can with ease.
TheLotusEater193 wrote:WHY IS IT SO TINY?!
TheLotusEater193 wrote:To be fair 1 and a half minutes is really good if you've never done it before.
Nantha wrote:Sometimes when people experience trauma such as rape, the reaction is to push everyone away. It's not uncommon, sexual abuse can often be the end of healthy relationships. There are all sorts of emotions mixed in that I could think of, guilt, fear, self-loathing etc.
Perhaps by pushing you away and finding solace in someone new she thinks she can get past whatever happened to her. It's really awful, I have no idea why her friends would tell her to ditch you, have you heard any reasoning for that?
Danroush wrote:If you have any mutual friends, (at the risk of sounding a little insensitive) I'd suggest getting one to chat to her and be fair to you, as whilst what's happened to her was clearly horrible, she should still treat you like a fair human, as even if she sees something of that guy in you, you aren't him, and to completely cut you off is unfair.
Whilst some of that may sound a little selfish, getting her to act rationally is the first step towards getting her to open up about it, or even overcoming what happened.
Twaddlefish wrote:I can certainly understand kanet's point of view from not wanting to know who it was, to an extent. Even typing a response is making my blood boil about how horrific this must have been for her.
If you can talk to her, eventually, get her to contact Rape Crisis as a couple of others have said, and just let her know that whatever her other friends did or didn't do, you're there for her in whatever capacity she needs. Let us know how things turn out, I hope she does go to the police and they throw away the key, with his shitbag excuses of friends.
Marcus, I'm getting sick of your shit. This is your only warning.
kanet666 wrote:I've just sent off a huge message explaining my feelings for her. I got a friend to proof read her and made her start bawling her eyes out. I even needed help pressing send. I just hope she reads it.
kanet666 wrote:I've just sent off a huge message explaining my feelings for her. I got a friend to proof read her and made her start bawling her eyes out. I even needed help pressing send. I just hope she reads it.
Urisk wrote:Just wondering. You know thes sites like Hard Rock Dating and suchlike, are they really sad-loser territory?
Luke_X wrote:Got a ruler out and I measure it about 11 inches. Which pretty good value in my mind.