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Re: The Relationships Thread

Postby kanet666 » Mon Jan 21, 2013 4:40 pm

Danroush wrote:It all depends on the situation. When it comes to sex outside relationships there's a whole range of different situations that can occur: one night stands, friends with benefits, open relationship etc. Most people aren't comfortable with at least one of those, but may be comfortable with one of the others upon giving it a try. I'm not keen on one night stands but don't mind the other situations as much, some people would be the reverse. My one main piece of advice would be to not assume you wouldn't be okay with something like this when you haven't tried it yet, as if I'd said "open relationship" to Ellen and Becky from the start I'm almost entirely sure I'd have got 2 big fat "no"s, but because of the timing and letting things evolve naturally it ended up working for all of us.


It's probably me just being me, but I just don't like the idea of the whole "open" thing. I don't know whether it's because I just don't care that much about sex as a whole or whether it's just because I prefer the idea of a "proper" relationship.
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Re: The Relationships Thread

Postby Danroush » Mon Jan 21, 2013 4:49 pm

Well yeah I completely understand people not feeling comfortable with the idea of it, I'd just suggest not writing it off completely without trying it or at least considering both sides of it.

I think libido is a very relevant thing as well here, if you have a fairly small sex drive then perhaps it's not worth it, if however you have a pretty hefty libido it's likely to work better
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Postby Fjar » Mon Jan 21, 2013 5:03 pm

I agree if you've got a higher sex drive you're more likely to seek out casual sex partners, but a huge aspect of it is the dynamic between the two parties - if one person starts wanting more than the other, it all goes to shit and ends up really messy. So in that sense, a more stable relationship setup is preferable, sometimes.
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Re: The Relationships Thread

Postby Danroush » Mon Jan 21, 2013 5:05 pm

Fjar wrote:I agree if you've got a higher sex drive you're more likely to seek out casual sex partners, but a huge aspect of it is the dynamic between the two parties - if one person starts wanting more than the other, it all goes to shit and ends up really messy. So in that sense, a more stable relationship setup is preferable, sometimes.



That is obviously the biggest issue, but those situations can be handled pretty easily if the people involved can muster the strength to cut it off before that becomes too much of a problem. That said me and ellen decided to go with just friends then within a week we were even closer to sleeping together than beforehand, so easier said than done I admit!
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Re: The Relationships Thread

Postby flo » Mon Jan 21, 2013 5:27 pm

Fjar wrote:I agree if you've got a higher sex drive you're more likely to seek out casual sex partners, but a huge aspect of it is the dynamic between the two parties - if one person starts wanting more than the other, it all goes to shit and ends up really messy. So in that sense, a more stable relationship setup is preferable, sometimes.


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Re: The Relationships Thread

Postby Bisset » Mon Jan 21, 2013 6:47 pm

Jesus Sex? What sort of kinky fuckery is going on in church nowadays?

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Re: The Relationships Thread

Postby flo » Mon Jan 21, 2013 8:23 pm

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Re: The Relationships Thread

Postby Nantha » Mon Jan 21, 2013 8:41 pm

My sex drive fucked off when I hit 20.
Most of the time I think about it it's just 'eww, someones swollen member joggling around my insides'
I have problems :(

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Re: The Relationships Thread

Postby fluffymoo » Mon Jan 21, 2013 9:04 pm

Mine seems to have dropped down a fair bit, which I don't mind because it was worryingly high before.
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Re: The Relationships Thread

Postby flo » Mon Jan 21, 2013 9:08 pm

Mines got worse, and I'm getting less :(
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Re: The Relationships Thread

Postby Bisset » Mon Jan 21, 2013 9:24 pm

Nantha wrote:My sex drive fucked off when I hit 20.
Most of the time I think about it it's just 'eww, someones swollen member joggling around my insides'
I have problems :(


Well in all fairness that description's enough to put anyone off.

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Re: The Relationships Thread

Postby MikeA » Mon Jan 21, 2013 10:18 pm

flo wrote:I'm pretty sure our erm 'group' has a nice spider diagram of hookups.




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Re: The Relationships Thread

Postby Noodle » Tue Jan 22, 2013 2:03 am

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Noodle wrote:I quite like sex.

Thank you for considering my point of view.


Have you ever tried this as a pickup line? Oddly I think it may be quite effective in some parts of the world...

Whilst sex is usually awesome, it doesn't upset me if I don't get it. I've found the more worthwhile outcomes happen when I don't try to initiate contact. Besides, girls must get fed up of being propositioned constantly, so why should I add to that crowd?

I should probably point out that I am in a relationship, so pick up lines aren't really needed right now. She doesn't seem to mind me walking up to her and biting her neck in the middle of a club night, for example.
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Re: The Relationships Thread

Postby jackcake » Tue Jan 22, 2013 3:24 am

No idea what you lot are on about, I just miss the silent company.
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Re: The Relationships Thread

Postby Bisset » Tue Jan 22, 2013 8:49 am

I find the best pick up line is to get a drink, stand at one side of the room while looking uncomfortable and stare at your target.
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