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Re: The Relationships Thread

Postby Moonburp » Fri Jul 11, 2014 7:21 pm

Every relationship I've ever had has involved music in some way, shape or form. Not being into it is a mahoosive turn off for m.e

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Postby Turbo » Fri Jul 11, 2014 7:42 pm

I think the only thing I demand is that she must be good at making cakes. :lol:

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Re: The Relationships Thread

Postby Smindas » Fri Jul 11, 2014 8:15 pm

Fjar wrote:I think living with someone who had such a strong need to listen to a very specific kind of music every time would be much more grating. :lol:

That one. I've always found the exchange of different music tastes really fun in a relationship anyway - discovered lots of great stuff that I'd never clicked on to and vice versa.

Some common interests in general probably help, but to be honest, I've always found a commonality in personality a much bigger draw.

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Postby Jim » Fri Jul 11, 2014 8:21 pm

Fjar has terrible taste in music, and mine's is tonnes worse.
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Re: The Relationships Thread

Postby Katesyl » Fri Jul 11, 2014 8:42 pm

Fjar wrote:I think living with someone who had such a strong need to listen to a very specific kind of music every time would be much more grating. :lol:

This, but also this:
Moonburp wrote:Every relationship I've ever had has involved music in some way, shape or form. Not being into it is a mahoosive turn off for m.e

I think it's more the attitude towards music than liking all the same stuff that's important.

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Re: The Relationships Thread

Postby NeglectedField » Fri Jul 11, 2014 8:46 pm

Moonburp wrote:Every relationship I've ever had has involved music in some way, shape or form. Not being into it is a mahoosive turn off for m.e


Absolutely. There's gotta be some stuff you can both enjoy and it's silly to conflate "they must enjoy music" with "they must like exactly the same thing as me"; this isn't about "they gotta like metal, GOSH!" but being of a broadly similar disposition. Besides, the more into music they are in general, the more overlap there'll be in taste. You work on that common ground, etc.

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Postby Nantha » Fri Jul 11, 2014 9:29 pm

who isn't into music though?
Personally I'd feel uncomfortable playing music I liked knowing the other person listening wasn't into it.
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Postby kanet666 » Fri Jul 11, 2014 9:46 pm

Music is quite a big thing to me. Whilst I have a broad enough taste to overlap with most people, I'm not sure I could cope with being with someone for a long time where that overlap is very tiny. Going to gigs and festivals is also a big part of my social life where that other person may feel completely outcast from.

It was a bad enough in my last relationship where there was quite a large overlap (although her way of responding to the slightest bit of music with "What is that shit?" or "Turn that shit off" even if I played something she supposedly liked).
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Re: The Relationships Thread

Postby Turbo » Fri Jul 11, 2014 9:49 pm

I honestly don't give a shit about music. Ill only bore her to death with what little I know about the subject. What's the point?

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Re: The Relationships Thread

Postby Smerphy » Fri Jul 11, 2014 11:56 pm

I'd give you a look of horror too, for seeing such a shite band ;)
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Re: The Relationships Thread

Postby Turbo » Sat Jul 12, 2014 12:58 am

Its important to have things in common, but I don't think music has to be one of them.

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Postby TheLotusEater193 » Sat Jul 12, 2014 1:54 am

Music in my current relationship has been extremely bizarre. Chris is hugely into music, but he loves house & techno - something I've literally had no experience of up until recently, however I find I like a lot of it.

In the past I did have a tendency to go for someone purely based on music taste, and I'm glad this time I've made a change. I still listen to metal but I'm far less involved in the scene, but at the end of the day we both open the other's eyes and are open minded to hearing new things. I don't think I'll ever have him attending a Bloodstock festival...maybe the odd gig!

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Postby Moonburp » Sat Jul 12, 2014 5:09 am

TheLotusEater193 wrote:Chris is hugely into music, but he loves house & techno - something I've literally had no experience of up until recently, however I find I like a lot of it.

Yup...he's a chef.

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Postby Applecore » Sat Jul 12, 2014 7:40 am

I've noticed most young chefs either listen to that kind of music, or really, really mainstream (Kerrang!) metal.
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Re: The Relationships Thread

Postby Smindas » Sat Jul 12, 2014 9:05 am

Random trivia: Warrel Dane and Jim Shepherd of Nevermore are certified chefs. Maybe in America, cheffing is metal.