*red* wrote:If your "nice" then you are either perceived as too nice and therefore boring or a walk over and people take advantage.
If your mean then although in the short-run someone may like that and find the boy boy (or girl) attractive nothing long term can really come of it because who honestly wants to spend the rest of their lives with someone who treats them bad?
We need to create a balance but that depends on person to person. And how do we really know what the other person likes?
And if we tried to fit that ideal are we really being true to ourselves?
I'm very nice, but part of my sense of humour seems to involve taking the piss and being a bastard -thats the balance I've created!
Well it hasn't always worked for me, cos if the other person doesnt get that then I don't act that way round them so I don't offend or come across the wrong way. But then, I wasn't acting myself... you've gotta act yourself. But usually I'm a bit cautious when starting out with someone, so I can get to know what their like before unleashing the full nob I am, and enjoy time just getting to know each other. And if I still can't act my full self then I guess its gonna end at some point. I'd rather be single than fit someone elses ideal.
Too much empathise is on pulling anyway when people go ouot. What about just having a good time?
Too fucking right! I don't have any mates that do this, even on an all girls night it involves having a laugh and being too rouwdy and un-girl like for anyone to wanna chat us up lol. If something happens and something comes from it, so be it!