The Relationships Thread

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Re: The Relationships Thread

Postby Finnvitka » Sat Dec 26, 2009 6:38 am

hah

well, this guy's already seen me at my absolute most hammered so there's one less thing to terrify him with.
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Re: The Relationships Thread

Postby raka13 » Sat Dec 26, 2009 5:10 pm

Situation:
Girlfriend - Poly-amorous
Me - Not

Girl wants us to get to stage where I am happy with her being poly.
Girl is going to Spain on 25th Jan for 3 months, and has said that she will start being poly again then.
Girl has said that currently we are not in a poly-relationship.

I come home from Christmas dinner yesterday and find 4 Voicemails on skype.
Second one seems to have girl saying "Did you bring a condom", a guy called max (who wanted to fuck her sometime ago, and was apparently helping her edit films for uni) saying "This isn't just a one night thing?" and right at the end girl saying "Oh Fuck!" as she realises voicemail is still recording, and then it cuts out.


One person suggests texting her, casually asking about the voicemails, another suggests waiting until I can confront her face to face.

Bloodstock, any advice please?
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Re: The Relationships Thread

Postby Ensorcelled » Sat Dec 26, 2009 5:12 pm

Ditch the slag.
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Re: The Relationships Thread

Postby Jim » Sat Dec 26, 2009 5:14 pm

raka13 wrote:Girl wants us to get to stage where I am happy with her being poly.

That's the give away. If you don't want to be poly and she does, then something isn't working.

Either one of you makes the change to make the relationship work or it simply won't work.

End it.
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Re: The Relationships Thread

Postby Jobdone » Sat Dec 26, 2009 5:20 pm

Kill her.

Wear skin as suit.

Find people she's been sleeping with.

Rape them.
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Re: The Relationships Thread

Postby raka13 » Sat Dec 26, 2009 5:21 pm

siliconfury wrote:
raka13 wrote:Girl wants us to get to stage where I am happy with her being poly.

That's the give away. If you don't want to be poly and she does, then something isn't working.

Either one of you makes the change to make the relationship work or it simply won't work.

End it.


I don't feel right being poly, but want to be able to accept it for her...
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Re: The Relationships Thread

Postby Jim » Sat Dec 26, 2009 5:24 pm

I don't mean to sound harsh, but drop it and find someone else.

Both of you have to be able to accept who each other is without the need to make huge changes such as views on relationships, and nobody is worth changing your morals on relationships for.
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Re: The Relationships Thread

Postby raka13 » Sat Dec 26, 2009 5:24 pm

Jobdone wrote:Kill her.

Wear skin as suit.

Find people she's been sleeping with.

Rape them.


That has got to be the best option I've heard so-far.
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Re: The Relationships Thread

Postby Jim » Sat Dec 26, 2009 5:25 pm

Also, it sounds like you're still in infatuation stages.

If you've done her already, woopee, nice one - not relationship material? Move on.
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Re: The Relationships Thread

Postby raka13 » Sat Dec 26, 2009 5:27 pm

siliconfury wrote:I don't mean to sound harsh, but drop it and find someone else.

Both of you have to be able to accept who each other is without the need to make huge changes such as views on relationships, and nobody is worth changing your morals on relationships for.

I know.

Thing is, she says she has not been paying attention to her poly impulses while we've been together so far, and doesn't like the fact she isn't being herself.
I want to find a nice middle ground, but don't know what is a good one.
She says she doesn't want to split up with me either.

Oh, and she's rather hypocritical.

Also, it sounds like you're still in infatuation stages.

If you've done her already, woopee, nice one - not relationship material? Move on


We've been together from about May.
And she seems to be the one who wants to do me more than me wanting to do her.
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Re: The Relationships Thread

Postby HollyTheHeadbanger » Sat Dec 26, 2009 5:29 pm

I'd fucking ditch that.

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Re: The Relationships Thread

Postby Finnvitka » Sat Dec 26, 2009 5:32 pm

I'd be in it for threesomes.
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Re: The Relationships Thread

Postby Jobdone » Sat Dec 26, 2009 5:34 pm

Finnvitka wrote:I'd be in it for threesomes.


They'd all be devils threesomes :(
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Re: The Relationships Thread

Postby raka13 » Sat Dec 26, 2009 5:35 pm

Finnvitka wrote:I'd be in it for threesomes.


I was looking forward to your response!
You seem to be rather like her
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Re: The Relationships Thread

Postby Finnvitka » Sat Dec 26, 2009 5:39 pm

raka13 wrote:
Finnvitka wrote:I'd be in it for threesomes.


I was looking forward to your response!
You seem to be rather like her


haha how? I'm not sure whether to be offended or amused :p
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