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Re: The Relationships Thread

Postby Finnvitka » Tue Feb 09, 2010 2:27 am

siliconfury wrote:Yeah, they have internet in Sweden :P


They have ridiculously fast internet in Sverige.
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Re: The Relationships Thread

Postby Littlemissmetal » Tue Feb 09, 2010 7:12 am

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Metal_saddle wrote:most women are goldiggers anyway, keep your cash in the wallet.


You're right, Hannah's with me for my vast earning capability. :rolleyes:


Glad you've sussed that early on, dear :lol:

In all seriousness though, I hate sweeping generalisations like this - in the same way I hate it when women go off on a "all men are lying cheating scumbags" because of one bad experience.

Its just a tad narrow-minded :rolleyes:
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Re: The Relationships Thread

Postby Freakshow Nightmare » Tue Feb 09, 2010 10:57 am

Littlemissmetal wrote:
Twaddlefish wrote:
Metal_saddle wrote:most women are goldiggers anyway, keep your cash in the wallet.


You're right, Hannah's with me for my vast earning capability. :rolleyes:


Glad you've sussed that early on, dear :lol:

In all seriousness though, I hate sweeping generalisations like this - in the same way I hate it when women go off on a "all men are lying cheating scumbags" because of one bad experience.

Its just a tad narrow-minded :rolleyes:


To be fair, I think that most men are lying cheating scumbags. And most women are equally bad. And proceeding with the assumption that most people are scum, it's a lot better when you manage to find someone who isn't. Then again, this is me being single. I tend to be a lot more optimistic about things when I'm not :yes:

Since this is the right thread though, I guess it's worth mentioning that this is probably the first time I've felt comfortable being single, without majorly pursuing anyone. I mean, there's a girl on my course I like, and would like to ask out or something, but if I don't, I'm not too bothered. All is well :)
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Re: The Relationships Thread

Postby Littlemissmetal » Tue Feb 09, 2010 12:24 pm

Freakshow Nightmare wrote:To be fair, I think that most men are lying cheating scumbags. And most women are equally bad. And proceeding with the assumption that most people are scum, it's a lot better when you manage to find someone who isn't. Then again, this is me being single. I tend to be a lot more optimistic about things when I'm not :yes:

Since this is the right thread though, I guess it's worth mentioning that this is probably the first time I've felt comfortable being single, without majorly pursuing anyone. I mean, there's a girl on my course I like, and would like to ask out or something, but if I don't, I'm not too bothered. All is well :)


Hmm, to be fair, me trying to see the good in most people does tend to catch me out rather nastily sometimes, so I could be a bit too optimistic :lol:
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Re: The Relationships Thread

Postby VizardAmata » Tue Feb 09, 2010 2:26 pm

I think the most balanced view is recognising that 95% of people are not worth your time. Keeps you realistic, with a bit of optimism thrown in for flavour. :D

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Re: The Relationships Thread

Postby Jim » Tue Feb 09, 2010 2:35 pm

Slapping a figure or blanketing your view will make people react to you in the way you expect them.

Everyone is different, but everyone has the same basic traits. Knowing where people can be different and knowing basic human instincts will make you a person which is easier to get along with.

For example, knowing that humans love to reciprocate by nature is paramount to building rapport with someone. Which is why many salesmen offer freebies in the hope that you'll reciprocate with a sale.

Shifting back to relationships, treat everyone as a blank canvas when you first meet them, and give them the opportunity to present how they wish to be perceived. That way, if you want (or need) to get along with this person you can adjust your mannerisms or viewpoints to match that persons and possibly get somewhere.

If that seems false (it can be if you're after a relationship with someone, otherwise it's pretty much the only way to get along with someone that you'd rather not, but need to for whatever reason) then your only option is to ensure that you treat people the way you would like to be treated yourself.

Before this turns into a long post, in short - If you put a blanket over what most people are like then that's more a representation of yourself as a person rather than your views of other people.
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Re: The Relationships Thread

Postby Noodle » Tue Feb 09, 2010 3:02 pm

siliconfury wrote:Slapping a figure or blanketing your view will make people react to you in the way you expect them.


Both can be equally as kinky and enjoyable ;)
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Re: The Relationships Thread

Postby MotorAmarth » Tue Feb 09, 2010 4:48 pm

Littlemissmetal wrote:
Glad you've sussed that early on, dear :lol:

In all seriousness though, I hate sweeping generalisations like this - in the same way I hate it when women go off on a "all men are lying cheating scumbags" because of one bad experience.

Its just a tad narrow-minded :rolleyes:

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Re: The Relationships Thread

Postby fluffymoo » Tue Feb 09, 2010 6:50 pm

Finnvitka wrote:
siliconfury wrote:Yeah, they have internet in Sweden :P


They have ridiculously fast internet in Sverige.


Whenever my other half comes over he's amazed at our fast internet. It's awesome though. *cackle*
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Postby Metal_saddle » Tue Feb 09, 2010 7:19 pm

i should have not made the generalisation, oh well :(
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Re: The Relationships Thread

Postby Twaddlefish » Tue Feb 09, 2010 8:16 pm

Actually, I *am* a lying, cheating scumbag. I just wear it well.
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Re: The Relationships Thread

Postby Littlemissmetal » Tue Feb 09, 2010 8:17 pm

Twaddlefish wrote:Actually, I *am* a lying, cheating scumbag. I just wear it well.


Oh, *now* you tell me? :rolleyes:
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Re: The Relationships Thread

Postby twilightoftheidols » Tue Feb 09, 2010 8:21 pm

Littlemissmetal wrote:
Twaddlefish wrote:Actually, I *am* a lying, cheating scumbag. I just wear it well.


Oh, *now* you tell me? :rolleyes:


at least hes rich though :P
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Re: The Relationships Thread

Postby Manadh » Tue Feb 09, 2010 9:03 pm

I've realised recently just how opposite me and the OH can be. In no way am I saying it's a bad thing (opposites attract and all? :eyes:) it's just something that I've been noticing in the last few months, whereas before I had not!

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Re: The Relationships Thread

Postby MentalInfestation » Tue Feb 09, 2010 9:23 pm

twilightoftheidols wrote:
Littlemissmetal wrote:
Twaddlefish wrote:Actually, I *am* a lying, cheating scumbag. I just wear it well.


Oh, *now* you tell me? :rolleyes:


at least hes rich though :P


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