The Relationships Thread

[keera_envenomed]

Of course you'd be equally responsible! Unless she drugged you or something.

See, that's how I see it, everyone else I know seems to believe otherwise

Pfft - fuck everyone else. They are clearly tools.

[Danroush]

What about cheating on someone when you know quite well they're already in a relationship?

I did that. Still a cunt for it.

I've done that, I'll admit it's not morally brilliant but I don't see it on the same level at all as cheating, especially if the person they're with is someone I don't know at all (or hate). I wouldn't do something like that if I was friends with the other guy though, would be breaking the trust I had with that friend.

[kanet666]

Of course you'd be equally responsible! Unless she drugged you or something.

See, that's how I see it, everyone else I know seems to believe otherwise

Pfft - fuck everyone else. They are clearly tools.

Aye. It's not something I could do anyway.

[TheLotusEater193]

Of course you'd be equally responsible! Unless she drugged you or something.

See, that's how I see it, everyone else I know seems to believe otherwise

Pfft - fuck everyone else. They are clearly tools.

Yeah, when you're aware they're in a relationship you're both equally in the wrong IMO.

On saying that I broke up a relationship once from doing that. Oops. It's obviously not a nice thing to do but it wasn't planned and the fact I'd never met the gf made it somewhat easier...

I used to be really anti cheating as my dad was a serial cheater and really tore our family apart in the end, but now I can't help but feel it's not all that bad. I have no plans on doing it obviously and if Jamie did it I'd be heart broken, but if my friends were cheating on their partner I probably wouldn't bat an eyelid.

[Katesyl]

It's the chatting up random people, going out side and doing something that may not be right for me. I'm in a state of confusion right now as I still love my ex and want them back. But I want to move on with my life and not sure how to do that. Considering I've only had two partner's I'm frightened I'll come across inexperienced or innocent.

In my experience, there's nothing that makes you miss someone you love more than going out and having crap sex with someone who isn't them. I'd spend the time going out with your friends and making a great new start until you're really ready to meet someone else.

I also find that having one or two proper sexual relationships makes you come across way more experienced than a countless number of the same drunken one night stands.

[keera_envenomed]

I doubt i'd ever cheat. Dealing with one guy is difficult enough.

[Danroush]

It's the chatting up random people, going out side and doing something that may not be right for me. I'm in a state of confusion right now as I still love my ex and want them back. But I want to move on with my life and not sure how to do that. Considering I've only had two partner's I'm frightened I'll come across inexperienced or innocent.

In my experience, there's nothing that makes you miss someone you love more than going out and having crap sex with someone who isn't them. I'd spend the time going out with your friends and making a great new start until you're really ready to meet someone else.

I also find that having one or two proper sexual relationships makes you come across way more experienced than a countless number of the same drunken one night stands.

This, especially the second part as I haven't experienced the first really.

[karastorm]

The downside is all my friends are male ( the one's near by that have no family of there own) And all my female friends are too busy or live miles away. My closest female friend lives in Bristol and has her own worry's to deal with never mind helping me move on. So I'm stuck in a rut not going out or doing anything as I know I'll be vounrable to the wrong sort of man right now. So yeah..Hence the feeling like shit and hating your self the day after thing about sex.

[Turbo]

I know I'll be vounrable to the wrong sort of man right now.

Sorry I am spoken for.

[V-Man]

I know I'll be vounrable to the wrong sort of man right now.

Sorry I am spoken for.

Just my thinking.

[VizardAmata]

Controversial question time!

First thing I wanna say is that I realise my personal experiences in no way represent the general population, I'm just curious to what the rest of you lot have experienced in comparison to me.

Basically, in my personal experience I've always found girls more likely to cheat on a guy than the other way around. Perhaps it's just because I'm male I'm more likely to pay attention to which girls cheat rather than which guys, but out of people I know fairly well, I know about 8 girls to have cheated, and only 2 guys. What's the ratio like for the rest of you lot?

Hmm... I think it's leaning more towards more men cheating than women on my end, but not by much. My perception may be skewed a little as my first boyfriend did cheat on me, but yeah. Had several female friends who've had their partner cheat on them, same goes for my male friends. Aside from my own personal experience, none of my male friends have ever been the "cheater".

As for the "once a cheater, always a cheater" thing, I would say that is a rather large generalistion. People can change, but ONLY if they truly want it, which most people do not. One thing I know is this: My ex who cheated on me, had cheated in the past. Oh, and before you ask, I had already been with him for two years before I was told this.

[Tet]

For example: Eatin's not cheatin'. Discuss.

People only say that because it rhymes. I wonder actually if any man or woman could agree with the sentiment.

Yes, but my point still stands. For different people, cheating means different things. I've met people who feel that even thinking about someone else is considered cheating. And others for whom a fairly serious amount of contact is acceptable without them feeling they've cheated or been cheated on. I'm not sure where I'd draw the line. For me, kissing is OK. More than that? I don't know. It probably depends on the circumstances and the people involved.

[VizardAmata]

I've met people who feel that even thinking about someone else is considered cheating.

Wat.

[Jim]

I've met people who feel that even thinking about someone else is considered cheating.

Wat.

HE SAID HE'S MET PEOPLE WHO FEEL THAT EVEN THINKING ABOUT SOMEONE ELSE IS CONSIDERED CHEATING.





sorry had to be done

[Moonburp]

Never done a cheat. AFAIK I've only been cheated on once on New Years Eve '07/'08. I'd passed out from drink and my then-girlfriend got off with my mate in the other room