The Relationships Thread

[Hellhammer]

:lol: I remember those days! I was far more fucked up and pathetic than any of you are coming off though, so there's hope yet. I'm still young, but not so angsty

He's right. Apart from that last bit, you're still an angsty bitch.

Come here and love me, schnookums.

I said not so angsty. I'm happy fun time angsty, not Kurt Cobain angsty. You're just trying to get some man love from me and I refuse to bite.

Im sure he'd prefer it if you didnt bite.

[RedTeamWins]

Yeah, you should never use teath when you're...


Nevermind.

[Applecore]

He was kidding, we're actually well cool, we don't even like sex all that much, going a month without is well easy

This.
Except maybe change "a month" to TWO AND A HALF FUCKING YEARS for me.

Shit dude

To be fair, that's just sex. But "other stuff" is now about a year..

[jackcake]

To be honest a defeatist attitude is not going to get you far in life.

"Why bother? I'll only fail."

A bit of confidence helps too. I used to be the same, I had fuck-all confidence and I didn't see any point in bothering (for a number of reasons). Now I'm pretty confident about myself, and respect myself. Self-respect helps, I mean hell, the age-old analogy of "you must respect yourself, before anyone can respect you" comes into play here somewhat.

No offence, but bitching and moaning and giving up instantly? No thanks.

You're absolutely right. But it's easy to say when you're feeling good about yourself. Around this time a couple of years ago I was a shambolic wreck. It was all I could do to make myself go to work. And oh, didn't everyone know about it? Had I read this post back then I'd have laughed at you then wondered why I hadn't cried yet. I really was in that much of a state.

But then I started looking for my own place to leave home. I had something to get excited about, then I met somebody a couple of days before signing the tenancy contract. It took a while longer to bury the bullshit that had got me into such a bad way but she still puts up with me more than a year on and life seems to be working.

[Finnvitka]

The way I see it is, I'm fucking awesome and if the other person can't see that then they're not worth me anyway.

[Ndnd]

He was kidding, we're actually well cool, we don't even like sex all that much, going a month without is well easy

This.
Except maybe change "a month" to TWO AND A HALF FUCKING YEARS for me.

Been about a couple of months for me

[Ailema]

Celebrated my first anniversary with my fella on Friday. And Saturday. And Sunday. To be fair, both of our birthdays and our anniversary take place within a week. Oh, the alcohol.

[herzeleid]

He was kidding, we're actually well cool, we don't even like sex all that much, going a month without is well easy

This.
Except maybe change "a month" to TWO AND A HALF FUCKING YEARS for me.

Been about a couple of months for me

Aren't you with someone? And I wasn't saying i'd been a month without, try 4. It's brutal, the next woman I sleep with will never be the same afterwards.

[Finnvitka]

I haven't had sex since before christmas.

Seven months or so now?

To be honest, don't really care all that much!

[Rickles_the_Mighty]

Sex happens to me on the most random occurrences.

[Littlemissmetal]

Its easy to tell everyone they should be confident and have self-esteem when you're in a good headspace about yourself, point taken, but confidence really is a big draw for people.

Seriously - if its a point of logic that we've all got flaws, then its also logical we've also got good points too.

Been there myself - low self-esteem isn't pleasant and is hard to get rid of. One of my friends is probably one of the most beautiful women I've ever seen, though no matter how many times she gets told that she can't see it and won't believe it - its really sad

But its possible to get over. I haven't got fantastic confidence but I feel I've got about enough to get on in life now - I used to be crippled by the lack of it.

And I'm going to shut up at that, expressing my views on low self-esteem has previously gotten me in trouble with silly people, I don't want to accidentally set it off again.

[Finnvitka]

My self esteem is probably far too high. I think I'm fucking brilliant.

Also, I only seem to attract mentalists, weirdos and people with secret girlfriends.

Secret girlfriends are the bane of my existance.

[RedTeamWins]

I think the trick is to pretend to hate yourself, but really be a manipulative shit. I've seen that work millions of times.

[Littlemissmetal]

I think the trick is to pretend to hate yourself, but really be a manipulative shit. I've seen that work millions of times.

Oh boy, the number of girls who get away with that is unbelievable

[Johnny Tightlips]

I think its less a problem of people lacking confidence and more a problem of people lacking honesty. Like I know I'm not the best looking guy in the world, but I also know that I'm not the ugliest. If people would take a look in the mirror and just be honest to themselves about how they look, the confidence will soon follow. I found after ignoring any sort of ego or low self esteem I may have had and just being honest to myself about myself I was able to be more confident in life.