The Relationships Thread

[Fjar]

'Partner' reminds me of some kind of team building exercise. I just picture people high-fiving when they talk about their 'partner'. Dunno why.

[Noodle]

"Hi, this is *name*. I'm fucking him/her".

That works, right?

[Andrewhall28]

"Hi, this is *name*. I'm fucking him/her".

That works, right?

what if you're catholic

[Noodle]

"Hi, this is *name*. I'm sleeping in the bed on the other side of the room to him/her. We're of the opposite gender, of course".

[De Stijl]

"Hi, this is *name*. I'm fucking him/her".

That works, right?

what if you're catholic

Then you make sure the people you're telling don't have anything to do with the police.

[Kaahl]

Relationships aren't objective by nature, people aren't robots

No, but the actions of people can be objectively viewed. If I kiss her, we kissed, there's no interpretation involved.
There's more room for objective analysis in our situation, but that's a story for another day.

I think thinking with my head and not my heart is perhaps a better way of putting it.

Perhaps stop thinking about it as an objective outsider and think about how it makes you feel.
Continuing your example of objectively viewing a kiss, you will also be able to consider whether or not you enjoyed it, whether or not you want to do it more, whether or not it excited you, etc.
Feelings and thoughts aren't mutually exclusive or necessarily at odds with each other, you just need to acknowledge the existence of both and find a nice common ground that lets you function best.

[Delightful-Jim]

Relationships aren't objective by nature, people aren't robots

I wish I was. I hate being sensitive and crap. I want to be an emotionless robot

[Moonburp]

Relationships aren't objective by nature, people aren't robots

I wish I was. I hate being sensitive and crap. I want to be an emotionless robot

Jim, you're a lovely guy. But man up

[herzeleid]

Stay the course Jim, women just love a complete sissy!

[Purple n Batty]

"Hi, this is *name*. I'm fucking him/her".

That works, right?

Well, that worked last December when I told my sister about you whilst we were working up a hangover in Ely, "by the way I'm fucking..."

I think people think too much about relationships and what they want/expect to happen and putting time lines on it all. I much prefer just hanging out with someone, seeing what happens, trusting your instincts and letting it flow along naturally whilst at the same time building a great friendship and trust between you both instead of all the dating bollocks and making plans for the future which go tits up.

[Jobdone]

My favourite kind of relationship is stockholm syndrome.

[Kaahl]

I think people think too much about relationships and what they want/expect to happen and putting time lines on it all. I much prefer just hanging out with someone, seeing what happens, trusting your instincts and letting it flow along naturally whilst at the same time building a great friendship and trust between you both instead of all the dating bollocks and making plans for the future which go tits up.

Absolutely this.

[ollie123w]

I think people think too much about relationships and what they want/expect to happen and putting time lines on it all. I much prefer just hanging out with someone, seeing what happens, trusting your instincts and letting it flow along naturally whilst at the same time building a great friendship and trust between you both instead of all the dating bollocks and making plans for the future which go tits up.

smart!

[Dan Jenkins]

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[AnnihiSlateR]

Relationships aren't objective by nature, people aren't robots

No, but the actions of people can be objectively viewed. If I kiss her, we kissed, there's no interpretation involved.
There's more room for objective analysis in our situation, but that's a story for another day.

I think thinking with my head and not my heart is perhaps a better way of putting it.

Perhaps stop thinking about it as an objective outsider and think about how it makes you feel.
Continuing your example of objectively viewing a kiss, you will also be able to consider whether or not you enjoyed it, whether or not you want to do it more, whether or not it excited you, etc.
Feelings and thoughts aren't mutually exclusive or necessarily at odds with each other, you just need to acknowledge the existence of both and find a nice common ground that lets you function best.

I know. But at times I find it hard to feel. A lot of the time I just feel a sort of void inside where I know emotion should be, and it's annoying really as I know I should be feeling something. But there's been times when she's cried and it's had no effect on me whatsoever. To me, the situation didn't warrant crying and it's like I can't feel anything if I don't deem it worth the emotion in the first place if that makes sense?