The Relationships Thread

[PurpleJellyfish]

All happy and squeeful!
I have a rather good feeling about this one ^-^

Met n spoke to at BOA last year briefly and he forgot me
But he was drinking and with mates =P

However spoke to recently due to MySpazz and well all happy now ^-^
Going out tomorrow to show him the RobinHood tree tehe

[MikeA]

My relationshi is going very well. IM very happy.

Looking forward to annoying her at bloodstock this year

[Fibbly]

My relationshi is going very well. IM very happy.

Looking forward to annoying her at bloodstock this year

¬_¬

[ultralisk]

been single since i was born, never got into relationships, can't say i love being single, but i don't mind. well, sometimes i do to be honest. never really had the chance to socialise with cool people since i went here in the UK. oh well,

[adlym]

Indeed, I have terrifying claws.

You put that a week ago, but nobody has mentioned that they like a bit of that, and it's not terrifying at all for us

[Ulfrinn]

Ah good, a topic like this, time to vent.

18, Single, living in the south west which is a bitch. Essentially, there are some goths and metalheads, but a) They mostly hang out somewhere else, and my friends in that place would never go to somewhere like that and B) I have no confidence at all.

I rely upon my hair to get women talking to me, it works sometimes surprisingly.

[Freyja]

Ulfrinn, where in the southwest are you?



Lol,time for my relationship rant.
I had the most beautiful relationship that ended on Monday. Neither of us wanted it to happen, but some BITCH from his past has gone and got him into some very deep shit, meaning that we had to break up. It makes my blood boil, but one can only hope the gods work in strange ways and she will get her commupance. But for now, although I'm coping, bursts of pain keep on ripping through me on a daily basis. I hate this.

[Ulfrinn]

Freyja, I live in Devon.

It always sucks when a relationship ends prematurely, especially when it's someone elses fault completely. My most recent relationship ended because her mother instantly decided she disliked me, without even talking to me about it or anything, no second chance, nothing.

[Freyja]

Urgh, I'm now terrified my ex has ..done something horrible, with someone else.
he was at a party last night and.. yeah i dont know this sounds stupid, but his facebook status says hes smiling inside. why the fuck would be be smiling inside? he SAYS he misses me so much.. but then that.. oh i just dont know, i'm hurting so much and i dont know what to do

[LouLou815]

My relationship ended 2 weeks ago. I've pretty much recovered now though-all I needed was a good night out

[Prometherion91]

There's nobody. It's crap.

[MetalBeast]

My problem is, basically, I don't like myself very much. Depression can make things very difficult.

I fall for girls quite easily, but then I start thinking that they couldn't ever love me and that by me "pursuing" them I'd end up making us both unhappy, so I stay away. I think they wouldn't want to go out with me and even if they did, they'd soon change their mind. I feel like I'd be like a millstone round their neck and that they deserve someone better.

I think I'm probably classic "stalker" material and worry that me trying to initiate a relationship would probably come across as harassment/stalking. Once I've fallen for someone, I REALLY want for them to be happy and end up convincing myself that they'd be happier if I DIDN'T make my feelings known, or even if I stayed away completely.

I hate being single and am desperate to find someone to love, but I think women can spot this a mile off and it puts them RIGHT off. I also think I come across as needy and clingy, which puts them off further.

I also tend to assume that women that I'm attracted to will already be in a relationship.

[MetalBeast]

Looked like a bulldog chewing a wasp.

That's a nice expression, I may have to start using it.

A slightly ruder variant is

"...looked like a bulldog licking piss off a nettle".

[Lick Mars]

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I always say your more likely to meet someone (or someone good) when you least expect it. And that is usually when you're happy with yourself. Because if you're happy with yourself you're not overly arsed about being single - you'd rather single and happy, than unhappy and wishing you weren't single. And as you've described, when you're unhappy with yourself you're not very good in relationships. Gotta love yourself before you can love others. So yeah I'd focus your energies into finding ways to be happier with yourself and your life, then someone'll crop up and itll be a lot easier and lovely! I'm sure you knew all that anyway and dint need telling , I just happened to be thinking that earlier!

[LouLou815]

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I always say your more likely to meet someone (or someone good) when you least expect it. And that is usually when you're happy with yourself. Because if you're happy with yourself you're not overly arsed about being single - you'd rather single and happy, than unhappy and wishing you weren't single. And as you've described, when you're unhappy with yourself you're not very good in relationships. Gotta love yourself before you can love others. So yeah I'd focus your energies into finding ways to be happier with yourself and your life, then someone'll crop up and itll be a lot easier and lovely! I'm sure you knew all that anyway and dint need telling , I just happened to be thinking that earlier!

This is the truth!