Nantha wrote:Katy wrote:There is a simple way. It just won't be an easy way.
Go without him. Let him deal with it. He either grows a pair and gets over himself, or you can dump his ass. You're not married to him. Hopefully, you don't have children together. Life is too short for jealous partners. Seriously.
Thanks for the advice, but it's a little extreme, and not really valuable advice in my situation
Just to clarify, he doesn't stop me doing anything i want to do, but asking him to stay at home whilst his girlfriend and friends go to a festival without him will make him understandably jealous. When you have the same friends and share the same interests, it's not so easy to do things without each other, because it usually means one person misses out.
I thought you were talking about sexual jealousy - that he thought you were going to cheat on him. If it's just jealousy that the gang is all going off to have fun while he's left behind, that's a different thing. But still problematic. He can't expect you to stay glued to his side all day when you would rather go off and do your own thing. That's not healthy and it doesn't bode well for the long term.
I suppose saying "Don't come with us, you're a drag" wouldn't be at all good. But, can you just tell him that you're going to enjoy yourself and that may mean wandering off on your own from time to time? Would he sulk and ruin your day if you did that?
Because if so, then that really is not OK and you shouldn't put up with that.