Nantha wrote:Sorry to hear lassie.
For me it's not like an overwhelming moment of realisation but just it sort of feeling very normal and right being with someone, being completely on the same wavelength and missing them when they're not there to share opinions and laugh with and just do normal things together, and not seeing a time when you'd ever want that to end. In the same way that however they look is just right because it's them and no one else, however attractive, can be that.
I've been in relationships where I haven't been in love where the above has been true on a kind of superficial level but there's always that sense that something isn't quite right and that it's got a time limit. It's a lonely, empty kind of feeling that you're just playing at being a couple and not something I want to get into these days.
But yeah, I know if it is or isn't likely to happen from the start - as much as I might get along with someone I can't feel in with love them if I don't have complete respect for them - like if they're a bit dim or have questionable opinions on things or otherwise behave in a jarring kind of manner I can't relate to to the extent that I wouldn't have that sense of admiration and viewing them as a natural part of my life.
In response to Noodle, I don't think you necessarily have to go around saying it (my family and I never say it to each other for example for the same reason of it just sounding daft, but there's no doubt that we do), but I suppose in a couple where it can't just automatically be assumed people like that security of both knowing how strongly they feel about each other and it's the universally understood way of expressing it. I suppose if you have other ways of acknowledging that then fair enough.