LouLou815 wrote:Lick Mars wrote:MetalBeast wrote:.
I always say your more likely to meet someone (or someone good) when you least expect it. And that is usually when you're happy with yourself. Because if you're happy with yourself you're not overly arsed about being single - you'd rather single and happy, than unhappy and wishing you weren't single. And as you've described, when you're unhappy with yourself you're not very good in relationships. Gotta love yourself before you can love others. So yeah I'd focus your energies into finding ways to be happier with yourself and your life, then someone'll crop up and itll be a lot easier and lovely! I'm sure you knew all that anyway and dint need telling , I just happened to be thinking that earlier!
This is the truth!
That is all true, but learning to be happy with yourself after being VERY unhappy with yourself for a LONG time is a real uphill struggle...and it's all too easy to find yourself all the way down at the bottom again.
Whenever I meet a woman that I like, I tend to be in a mental state where I would think "asking them out would have disastrous consequences for all involved"...and if she liked me, I would have a very hard time recognising it (as in "She can't really be attracted to me, can she?").
Accepting myself as a person is just something I've got to learn to do - and it won't be easy.